One of the areas which may cause significant frustration for you and can create doubt about yourself and what you are doing to improve your fertility comes up frequently in our discussions with patient that come into the clinic. I wanted to discuss one particular scenario this week so hopefully you will feel prepared to respond comfortably if this situation should come up for you.
Have you ever gone into a doctor’s office and told them you were doing something alternative or complimentary, i.e. herbs, acupuncture, supplements, meditation,etc only to have them tell you that won’t work and its just a waste of money?
Our patients tell us this happens frequently not only with GP’s but also with IVF clinics, (definitely not all GP’s and IVF clinics though). As a matter of fact this week I have had 4 different patients from 4 different parts of Australia tell me their physician made this exact comment. Its as if some of them have been trained to say this because the comment is exactly the same.
These comments really knocked my patients for a loop so to speak. Here they thought they were doing something good for themselves and they were feeling better for it. And with one comment and maybe a roll of the eyes, they felt almost betrayed and in some cases foolish. And many times when the partner is there it can cause a major argument between the couple when they leave the office if the partner wasn’t on board about doing these things in the first place.
I am not hear to say that all complimentary therapies are going to help you now. And I am not going to tell you that you should listen to every person that says they can do something to improve your fertility. But what I can tell you is that by addressing every aspect of a person, not just their ovaries and uterus, or just the sperm for the male, couples coming to our clinic and following all of our recommendations have been able to create over 4200 babies (from many couples who were told they would never have children) and for the vast majority, estimated over 90% of women that we see report they feel better overall by following our program even if they haven’t become pregnant yet.
I share these last statments with you because this is what (in so many words) 3 of the 4 couples said to their doctors about what they were doing and it atleast 2 of the cases it really made the doctors think.
These two patients basically said to their physicians that they have spent thousands of dollars utilising IVF to create a baby and they still didn’t have a baby. So why doesn’t he/she consider that a waste of money? They also pointed out that IVF medications made them feel less than healthy and in one case the medications “really messed up my cycle and contributed to significant weight gain”.
On the other hand, the complimentary modalities they were using helped them feel more balanced and healthy overall. So how could the physician say that these modalities which cost significantly less and help them feel better are a waste of money? Thousands of dollars had been spent with that physician and there was not only no viable pregnancy yet, but emotional and physiological upset in many cases.
Many IVF physicians will admit it is a numbers game and encourage their patients to keep trying (depending on their age) or look at donors if they are older. And in the numbers game, how much money are couples spending?
I am not saying that a couple shouldn’t do IVF. And I am not saying that IVF is a waste of money. As a matter of fact, we refer people to IVF doctors in our area (that are supportive of their patients utilisiing complimentary modalities) when either they express interest in this or when we really feel this is their only option. We have great relationships with IVF doctors in Brisbane and on the Gold Coast. And we have IVF physicians and GP’s refering patients to us.
What I am saying though is there can be quite a double standard in the medical profession. Its as if some of these doctors are saying, “Its okay to spend thousands of dollars with me because I am a doctor and know what is best, even though you haven’t gotten the result and you might be feeling worse.”
Instead, wouldn’t it be great if the conversation went something like this,
Patient: HI Doctor, I just wanted to let you know that I have been taking herbs, supplements, doing meditation classes, and doing acupuncture since I saw you last.
Doctor: How have you been feeling since taking these things? Have you noticed an improvement? And if so what areas do you notice an improvement in?
Or if you haven’t noted an improvement then it would be a good idea to discuss this with that practitioner to see what they are working on and hopefully together we can help you make this happen.
Don’t fall off your chair, there are actually doctors out there who are like this…Sometimes it just takes a bit of effort to find them.
There are some doctors that tell patients, “Do what you feel is best for you and what you feel most comfortable with. Or if you think its helping then keep taking it. Just let us know what you are taking.” So there are definitely some out there and you can check our list of “Doctors that patients have recommended” in our Fertility tips section.
BTW, If you would have a doctor to recommend, either GP or OB/GYn, IVF specialist, etc please let us know their name and contact details. We will then call them and ask to put them on our site for others to find.
And just to let you know, there are some complimentary medicine providers that say similiar things about cost, etc to get you to use only their modalities. In my opinion its important to find a team of people from both conventional and complimentary areas to help you create the best health and overall well being that you can create in order to create the life you long for.
Hopefully you can feel comfortable having a discussion like the above with your doctor if they bring up the comment about you wasting your money. Keep in mind this isn’t only for you but but for the sake of others in your same position as well. In order to make a change for the better I can and will continue to work with doctors and hopefully help them understand what we are trying to accomplish with them but ultimately it will be you that really makes the difference by helping to open their eyes and see the other side of their comments.
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